DO NOT TRY
THIS AT HOME
...until you have fully and wholly loved your wife so profoundly that she is able to
see you, her husband, as though she were married to Jesus Christ Himself.
(No, you are NOT her "savior" but rather you LOVE her as deeply as Christ.)
And also wait until you have learned HOW to successfully bring
Christian Polygamy to others in the REAL WORLD without "crashing".
This article's OUTLINE
About Christ-like LOVE, not about "Puffing Up"
I've been in the REAL WORLD
Value of my REAL WORLD Testimony
ATTENTION ALL MEN
Why do Wives so Negatively React?
It's Because of YOU
What a Man MUST Now Do
LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS MATTER
"Marriage Counseling:
Teaching HOW to LOVE Profoundly".
About Christ-like LOVE,
not about "Puffing Up"
TruthBearer.org is a para-church support ministry ---it is not a source for puffing up. This ministry is not a call to any form of machismo-styled egotistical arrogance ---it is a call for men to grow to a deep and profound level of humble, selflessly-giving Christ-like love.
But even so, there are many men who will discover the profound revelation of the truth of Christian Polygamy, but then they will rush out and try to expect their wives to immediately "accept" it. And some others will take what they have learned and try to take it to other supposed-to-be Christians.
However, when they do so, they, sadly, find themselves "crashing" on their faces, sometimes even finding their entire lives thrown into jeopardy and their wife filing for so-called "divorce". God forbid!
Such a way is not the way of God.
I repeat: Such a way is not the way of God.
But the solution to preventing that dilemma/crisis is, actually, the very ministry function itself of TruthBearer.org, teaching HOW to bring the truth of Christian Polygamy to others, including to a first wife.
Yes, there are now some good people and web-sites on the internet providing information about Polygamy. And some are highly recommended, for sure.
But the growing number of such individuals and web-sites
has led to a new tendancy of
providing people with a false sense of "confidence".
However, it is a profound mistake to derive such a false sense of "confidence" from the internet.
For beyond all doubt, the internet is still
not the REAL WORLD.
I've been in the REAL WORLD
Indeed, let it not ever be forgotten that teaching Christian Polygamy
in the REAL WORLD is not as easy as in the "virtual" world of the internet.
I know. I've been out in the REAL WORLD teaching the truth of Christian Polygamy for years, publishing my Christian Conservative newspaper,
THE STANDARD BEARER. In comparison, I confess, coming to the internet has been an absolute "piece of cake".
Since 1994, which was two years before anyone was on the internet (starting in 1996) teaching the matter of Christian Polygamy,
I was publishing my newspaper, with the TRUTH Tracts (as found "inside" this web-site here), teaching the Scripturality of Christian Polygamy in the REAL WORLD. I have been doing this for years out in the public marketplace, long before anyone else was on the internet with this particular topic matter.
From [December 1994 through December 2002], I pastored a home-church which I had started. [As this growing organization's responsibilities eventually required more and more of my time, I had to forego continuing on as a pastor in order to devote energies to this growing Cause.]
Indeed, the strength of my testimony is that this was all happening way before the topic of Christian Polygamy ever came to the internet.
By itself, of course, that means nothing. However, what this my testimony does mean, for men who learn about Christian Polygamy
here on the internet, is that they need to understand the difference between the "easiness" of the internet and the absolute hardship of teaching the truth of Christian Polygamy in the REAL WORLD.
After all, I was totally and utterly alone in my obedience to God in this His calling with this my tabernacle.
Indeed, I had no other "pioneer" whatsoever to
- teach me any Christian Polygamy doctrine or rhetoric whatsoever,
- help me learn how to love my wife so profoundly as Christ loves the Church,
- help me learn how to willingly take the years of love and patience to help my first wife joyfully embrace the truth of Christian Polygamy,
- help me successfully demonstrate the Scripturality as well as HOLINESS (when as selfless in Christ-like love) of Christian Polygamy with would-be "correctors" of supposed "high" "religious leaders", nor
- help me cope with the depths of tribulation, persecution, and rejection for preaching what is clearly just a continuation of the Reformation...
But I had God. And indeed, with my [now-discontinued] newspaper, THE STANDARD BEARER, distributed regularly to literally 1000s of readers, there has been much
experience gleaned in these areas of tribulation, persecution, and rejection. [The last issue of that newspaper was published March, 1998. I had had to discontinue it in order to handle the growing responsibilities of the growing TruthBearer.org organization.] The newspaper brought mnay difficult, yet still valuable, experiences.
Some of the newspaper's advertisers had been "scared away" by anonymous phone calls. The newspaper was banned at several stores as the result of several "complaints". And many, many would-be "correctors" tried to rebuke me or refute me (although not one maintained the nine Fruit of the Spirit, or stayed within the confines of Scripture, or willingly went public after seeing the Truth revealed unto them).
But for and through it all, I praise God!
Truly, I had only God, in doing all this in the REAL WORLD.
Value of my REAL WORLD Testimony
And thereby did God give me this testimony that it might be of value to others.
This testimony is one of experience in the REAL WORLD, in terms of bringing Christian Polygamy to others, including loving a wife so deeply that she actually comes to joyfully embrace the truth of Christian Polygamy.
And that means that, helping my own first wife to accept and joyfully embrace Christian Polygamy is one of the most major parts
of my testimony which needs to be understood by any man discovering Christian Polygamy on the internet.
For indeed, after giving long quantity of time, patience, consistent affirmation, and overflowing LOVE, my first wife
was not only able to accept the truth of Christian Polygamy, but to embrace it joyfully with positive anticipation.
As such, this my own testimony given of God provides the very example on which TruthBearer.org is able to provide its ministry, in demonstrating the truth of Christian Polygamy in the REAL WORLD.
This my own testimony was given of God that it would (in addition to simply teaching the Scripturality issues, but that it would also) specifically help other men be able to successfully, with profound and deep Christ-like love, so likewise minister the same to their own wives, unto ultimately even bringing Christian Polygamy to their wives.
ATTENTION ALL MEN
So, Dear MEN, please, Listen up!
DO NOT TRY TO BRING ANY OF THESE MATTERS TO YOUR FIRST WIVES UNTIL YOU UNDERSTAND ---IN YOUR HEART--- THESE PRINCIPLES OF PROFOUND CHRIST-LIKE LOVE FOR YOUR WIVES.
Now there are those who will say that men should supposedly just "tell their wives" the truth of Christian Polygamy and to tell their wives to "just accept it".
NO!
That simply is not true.
(Even if God did make such a command to a man, that man would still prove it by still manifesting the nine Fruit of the Spirit ---Love, Joy, Peace, Longsuffering, Gentleness, Goodness, Faith, Meekness, and Temperance [i.e., "self-control"]--- of Galatians 5:22-23b.)
Without God is nothing short of selfishness. And where is the love of Christ in that?
The truth of Christian Polygamy is about Ephesians 5:25, about loving wives "AS CHRIST ALSO LOVED THE CHURCH, and gave himself for it."
That means that a man must have love and compassion for his wife, so profound a love that she indeed
can see her husband as if he himself was as Jesus Christ Himself being her husband.
And that means that the husband would have the total love and compassion to understand (or learn to understand) how she will feel and see things, regarding the issues of Christian Polygamy.
For truly, at first, most every wife is not going to be able to "instantly accept" Christian Polygamy.
And some wives, even, are likely to react with the not-too-uncommon humorous declaration that the "lake of fire" would be an "ice skating rink" before they'd be willing to accept the truth of Christian Polygamy.
Why do Wives so Negatively React?
So let me ask the following questions to men directly:
Why is it indeed so likely that a woman would react that way, so negatively, against Christian Polygamy?
Do you think that the reason a first wife would not be able to accept it is just because she's a woman?
Nope. Wrong.
Do you think the reason is because a first wife simply hasn't been around "polygamists"?
Nope. Wrong.
Do you think the reason is because a first wife doesn't really want to trust the Word of God?
Nope. Wrong.
Because of this my testimony, given of God, thus having personal experience in the REAL WORLD, I can and will tell you why it is.
You see, dear men, the reason why your first wife will most typically not be able to accept Christian Polygamy is because of....
YOU!
It's Because of YOU
Yes, there are other factors which come into play here, as well, such as the influence of other women and the impact of other men in a woman's life, but the fact remains. The biggest single "obstacle" to your bringing
Christian Polygamy to your first wife is still and mostly YOU.
Your first wife is not against polygamy just because she's a woman. Nor does her initial fear of it have any connection to her observing or not observing
how well others are able to live in polygamous families. And her fear does not mean that she doesn't WANT to trust the Word of God (even though she might be having "difficulty" because of the obvious-ness of the Scripturality of Christian Polygamy in the Scriptures).
Rather, your first wife is only looking at YOU and seeing how YOU would be in such a polygamous family.
A first wife's fear-based reaction to Christian Polygamy is most-often, and above all other reasons, based primarily on
what she has observed in all the men in her life, which most especially means what she has observed in YOU.
So that means that it is up to you, the MAN, to grow, grow, grow in Christ to such a deep and profound love for the wife.
The matter is not about simply "expecting" the first wife to simply "accept it". For indeed, such a hard attitude is simply not having love or compassion for the wife whatsoever. And such a hard attitude is, most definitely, NOT "loving your wives, even as Christ also loved the church" (Ephesians 5:25.)
What a Man MUST Now Do
Therefore, again, Dear MEN, please, Heed these words!
DO NOT TRY TO BRING ANY OF THESE MATTERS TO YOUR FIRST WIVES UNTIL YOU UNDERSTAND ---IN YOUR HEART--- THESE PRINCIPLES OF PROFOUND CHRIST-LIKE LOVE FOR YOUR WIVES.
Does that mean, then, that first wives will supposedly always fear the truth of Christian Polygamy? Does the "lake of fire" really have to become an "ice skating rink" before a first wife (even a wife who outright declares that statement!) will accept, even embrace, Christian Polygamy?
Of course not.
As this my testimony, given of God, does prove: a woman can be gently, patiently, and compassionately led to not only accept, but even to embrace, Christian Polygamy. Basically what she simply needs is a man who loves her so deeply and profoundly "AS CHRIST ALSO LOVED THE CHURCH" ---and that is a mighty profound love indeed!
With the consistent application of such profound, selflessly-giving Christ-like love for the first wife, "even as Christ also loved the church", even a first wife (even one who had previously declared that she was waiting for the "lake of fire" to become an "ice skating rink" before she would accept it) can indeed change and also come to even joyfully embrace the truth of Christian Polygamy.
Helping toward that end, and making sure that wives are truly loved in the Christ-like manner, is one the key ministries of TruthBearer.org.
For this my own testimony, given of God, does bear witness.
To wit, and for both a deeper understanding of this level of selfless, Christ-like love, and for a testimony of this my testimony, given of God,
please do take the time to completely read the following article in this web-site, titled,
"Marriage Counseling: Teaching HOW to LOVE Profoundly".
So, to now conclude, I pray that the following points will be remembered by all men who understand the truth of Christian Polygamy:
- Do not assume the false sense of "confidence" from the internet (because the internet is a "piece of cake" when compared to the REAL WORLD).
- Understand just how difficult these matters are in bringing the truth of Christian Polygamy to others, and especially to one's own first wife.
- Understand the profound level of love required of a man to minister TO his first wife, rather than simply "expecting" her to just "accept" Christian Polygamy.
- Be consistently and unceasingly patient, compassionate, and loving in understanding these matters from the first wife's view.
- Lovingly and consistently re-affirm the first wife without ceasing. And,
- Continue to grow in humble, selflessly-giving Christ-like love FOR the wife.
So, one more time again,
Dear MEN, please, Heed these words!
DO NOT TRY TO BRING ANY OF THESE MATTERS TO YOUR FIRST WIVES UNTIL YOU UNDERSTAND ---IN YOUR HEART--- THESE PRINCIPLES OF PROFOUND CHRIST-LIKE LOVE FOR YOUR WIVES.
After all, the internet simply is not the REAL WORLD.
And now, I pray that this has been a blessing and a revelation for all who have read it.
And may the profound love of the Lord Jesus Christ be with and in each one.
LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS MATTER
"Marriage Counseling:
Teaching HOW to LOVE Profoundly".